Are you and your partner compatible? Do you think you’re in it for the long haul? Let’s find out!
Healthy relationships are comprised of the 3 C’s: communication, compromise, and commitment. To get a better idea of your long-term potential, answer the following questions for each “3 C” category:
The way you and your partner communicate plays a vital role in maintaining a healthy relationship. Here are some important communication questions to consider:
Question 1: Do we have the same argument again and again?
If your arguments sound like a broken record, it’s because something’s broken in your communication. Arguing is inevitable, but the same fight over and over indicates a deeper issue and calls for some improved communication.
Question 2: Is my partner a good listener?
Are you truly being heard? If your partner is actively listening, they will make eye-contact, ask follow-up questions, and show empathy.
Relationships are all about give-and-take, which involves a lot of compromising. Some days you’ll be the one making compromises, other days it’s your partner. You’re not counting or keeping score, since you know you both give as much as you can.
Here are some questions to consider about compromise:
Question 1: How often do we compromise?
Do most of your arguments end with one of you getting your way? How many are resolved through compromise? The more you’re able to work together to find a mutually beneficial solution, the stronger your relationship will be.
Question 2: How often do we resolve our issues?
Do you resolve arguments quickly, or do you let things fester and avoid talking about them? Issues need to be addressed right away to avoid one or both of you becoming resentful. If you can think of many arguments that have gone unresolved, you might be in need of better compromising skills.
A lack of commitment is devastating to a relationship, so it’s essential to determine where you both stand. Here are a couple of questions to consider:
Question 1: Do we make plans in the future together?
Do you make plans for the future or only for the upcoming weekend? Someone who isn’t interested in commitment will avoid talking about any plans further down the road. If you can’t envision a future that has the two of you in it, it might be time to reevaluate the relationship.
Question 2: Do we make sacrifices for each other?
When you’re in a happy, committed relationship, you want to put your partner’s needs before your own. There’s no obligation or forcing it. Your priorities reveal a lot about your commitment level. If you’re only thinking about your own needs, there might be a lack of commitment.
If you’ve answered these questions honestly, you’ll be left with a much better idea of your compatibility and potential future with your partner. If you’re concerned about the results, it doesn’t mean things are over! Whether you work it out personally or consult a relationship coach, you may be able to make the changes you need to move forward as a couple.